How to be depressed when you’re not ready to stop being depressed…

Now, this is not a post on how to heal your depression because i’m not a medical professional. This is simply me telling you how to deal with the fact that your ass is depressed. It’s like a survival guide. Like you’re depressed, now how do we do the bare minimum. Just enough to help you survive to see another day. Depression is hard. It’s not your common cold, take two & call me in the morning headache. Depression takes over your life. It completely paralyzes your world. You don’t eat. You don’t sleep. You have no joy or hope of things getting better. And I mean, eventually, if you work hard enough, it does get better. But it doesn’t mean you’ll able to do it right away. It takes time. It takes you wanting to get better. & sometimes, I mean you want it to get better, but you’re not strong enough to put in that work & that’s okay. Like i said. this isn’t a post to tell you how to heal. It’s to help you survive another day while you work on building the strength to begin healing.

If you don’t want to do it, don’t – besides obvious responsibilities like work and school. if you don’t want to, don’t. you don’t want to cook or shower or clean or wash your hair. don’t. And hey even work or school, if you want to take a day off, do it. These jobs don’t care about us. Stop forcing yourself to be okay. You don’t have to be. Sleep the day away, don’t get up. Eat all the snacks or don’t. Just stay hydrated because I don’t want you to pass out, but besides that, embrace the shitty feeling. You don’t have to heal right away. Take your time. Take it for what it is. You’re depressed. You a sad bitch.

Live day by day– don’t rush the process. Don’t force yourself to think of the future. Just take it one day at a time. You don’t have to be okay right away, you just have to make it thru today. That’s all. I know it’s hard to be sad, imagine how much harder you make it on yourself having to think about tomorrow. Shhh it’s okay.

Don’t be mad at someone for not helping you – As much as we want someone to swoop in and save us. Depression will be a lot easier once you stop thinking anybody owes you anything. Nobody does. This is your problem to fix, & waiting on someone to come help you is only going to make your problem worse, considering you waiting for this hero who’s never going to show up. It’s your depression & as harsh as it sounds, it’s nobody else’s responsibility. Stop. Go be sad and then go fix it. Don’t depend on nobody to even be there for you. People have their own problems.

Understand it’s not your fault – we tend to blame ourselves for everything that goes wrong in our life & hey, most of the time it is our fault for doing some dumb shit. But mental health isn’t our fault. It’s a chemical imbalance or some shit. Past traumas, childhood bullshit or a very traumatic experience, stuff like that. But it is not your fault you’re depressed. You didn’t do anything wrong nor do you deserve this. Embrace it for what it is, but know that it’s not anything you did wrong. You didn’t do anything wrong. I’m sorry if you’ve ever felt it’s your fault. *blog hug*

Keep yourself alive – yes, my whole post has been about just embracing the depression for what it is & only doing things when you are ready. HOWEVER if you feel that life itself is slipping away, if you feel that your will to live is getting pointless. Then get up and get help!!!! Depression is common, questioning if you belong here is actually a lot more common than you think, but contemplating suicide & wanting to kill your self is not. & when things get that bad, ignore everything i said before & go get help immediately. I’m begging you. It’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to just not want to get up right now or for a few days but it’s never okay to want to take your life. The world needs you, your wife, your husband, your family, your kids, they need you. I need you. If things get this bad, please get help. Call the hotline. 1-800-273-8255. but please.

Listen, it happens. Sometimes life’s road is out of our control. Someone takes our wheel & starts swerving it in all different directions. It’s okay to embrace every direction life decides to take us. It’s okay to be sad, happy, mad, whatever. Embrace the bad so that you can appreciate the good. And, when & only when you are ready, get yo ass up and fix it. But if right now you just want to watch sad movies, eat ice cream and cry about the meaning of life. That’s fine. Ignore the outside noise. Understand why you are dealing with this & get the help you need when you see fit. When we start doing things on other people’s time or when we’re simply not ready. We don’t take it serious, we don’t give it our all. But if things get out of hand, please get help even if you’re not ready. Admitting you’re depressed isn’t anything to be embarrassed about. For the mommas who have PPD, it’s okay. You just had a baby and you’re a damn good mother no matter what. For the men who’s childhood traumas made them a certain way, you don’t have to be strong all the time. For the college student who’s in her dorm right now wondering what’s even the point, close the laptop, take a nap and try again when you wake up. It does get better, only when you want it to. And if right now you just want to sleep not fix your depression, that’s okay too. I love you, whoever you are. If you want to talk i’m here. If you don’t i’m here too. If you want to reach out to me, my instagram is on my blog, DM me. It will get easier, eventually. But my post isn’t to tell you how to make it easier, my post is to tell you it’s okay if you don’t want it to right now.


I’m Rossy ( Row-z ). I am a mother and a writer. Im 28 years young and im still figuring myself out, but i realllly like the woman i’m getting to know. i love all things food, sleep & wavy fits. Im not even sure where i want to take this. My need to write is so much bigger than my need to understand why.

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