A new year is coming up and that means so is a new me. Atleast i’d like to think so. Every new year we make vision boards & extremely long goal lists. We do silly rituals like wearing certain underwear colors & eating grapes to ensure we have a good new year. The first week of January we all eat healthy, go to the gym, our mental illnesses all go away & life seems like it’s really looking up. Then we stop working out, we don’t want to cook so we pick up some fast food and we realize we never got around to putting up that vision board. By January 7th we’re back to the same person we were on Dec 31. There’s always the pressure to change who you are & be better than the person you were the year before, immediately, as soon as the clock strikes 12. It’s unrealistic but we give ourselves the dumbest expectations every year. We get super stressed out & then bummed out when it doesn’t work out. We have to stop that shit. We have to stop expecting so much of ourselves. I’m guilty of new year new me culture. I’m guilty of “this year will be different” & the truth is they are never different. We think that we can start things without being ready & it fucks everything up. I’ll give you five things to help you have a wavy new year without putting too much pressure on yourself.
Ask Yourself Questions– What do you want to change? Why haven’t you already started changing it? What will be different if you start Jan 1st than if you start tomorrow? Are you truly ready to change? We won’t commit to something unless we’re ready to change it. Forcing ourselves to start something when our mind body & soul are not on the same page is a set up for failure. If you’re not ready then it doesn’t matter how many January 1st come along, you won’t commit. Don’t let these toxic personal trainers tell you that you have to fix anything. You’ll lose weight when you’re ready too. Do you even want to change anything or do you just feel like now is the time to start acknowledging the flaws that others have pointed out?
Superstitions– Superstitions are fun. My mom lives by if you go outside with your luggage when the clock strikes 12, you’ll spend the year traveling. I’m a strong believer of how you bring in the year is how you spend the year. They are really fun so go ahead & wear those colored underwear but understand that life happens and no matter how hard we try to have law of attraction work in our favor, things can go wrong & there’s no way to truly have a perfect year. Nobody wore pandemic colored underwear bringing in 2020 & look what happened. Don’t let yourself get so wrapped up in these superstitions that you become disappointed & feel like a failure when things don’t go the way you wanted them to. Do them for fun & hope for the best. A lot of these traditions been in our families for years & I know it’s hard to unlearn but don’t take them so serious so you don’t stress yourself out.
Don’t Start January 1st- Just enjoy the day. Most will be hung over anyways. Enjoy the fact that you made it another 365 days around the sun. That’s it. If you decided to wait til the new year to start your journey, that’s cool, but it doesn’t have to be the first day. Take it easy on yourself. Make your plan & start it in a few days. Take in the joys of it being a brand new year. Get excited for the things to come. Just don’t overwhelm yourself. You don’t have to stumble home after the club & force yourself to go to the gym because you’ll feel bad you didn’t start exactly on Jan 1. If your goal is to get your shit together in the new year, cool, get it together. Just don’t force it exactly on the 1st. There’s no start clock. I believe in you & I know you’ll get it done, January 2nd.
Surround Yourself with Love- it’s not a superstition. It’s just that if you surround yourself with people you love to be around, you’ll worry less about all those goals & plans & you’ll focus on just the present moment. You’ll be able to just have fun & enjoy your day like you would any other day. You won’t be stuck worrying about making it to the gym or starting that juice cleanse. Have fun. Put on a cute ass outfit, do your make up, take some fire photos and HAVE FUN! It’s one of the funnest nights of the entire year. So many parties, so many places to go watch the clock strike 12. Our biggest issue is the pressure we put on ourselves to do all the superstitions, to make sure that the year starts perfectly and we don’t enjoy the day and just appreciate that we made it to see another year. Put on that sparkly dress and go out.
FUCKING RELAX- no seriously, stop putting so much pressure on yourself to do stuff you don’t want to do. If you’re really and truly not ready to change then don’t. Change in March or June, whenever you feel ready to. You didn’t change before you don’t have to force a change now. You clearly weren’t ready to do it all last year. Take it easy and just enjoy life one day at a time. When you’re ready you’ll know. But you don’t have to change. There’s nothing wrong with you.
Enjoy your new year. Do whatever you want. Stay off social media and don’t believe the stigma that you have to do things differently just because a new year is coming. You’ll have plenty of time to do all the things you want to do but if you do them before you’re ready you’re going to either give up super fast or do a super shitty job. You’ll be fine. Get fucked up. Get dressed up. Turn the fuck up and that’s it. It is perfectly fine if you want to be the same person this year than you were last year. I promise there’s nothing wrong with you and you don’t have to change. But if you do, then do it when you want. I feel the pressure too. I had a terrible 2021 but am I going to join a gym and eat a salad on Jan 1st? No, i’m not. I’m simply not ready to change my life around in a few days. I know what I want to change, but im just not ready to do it yet. Whatever is stopping you, is nobody’s business but yours. So what I will say that you should change in the new year is this: Learn to tell people to Fuck off when they tell you that you need to change. Happy New Year from your favorite blogger.